Sometimes we need to be reminded of our place in the world. The fact is, outside of our families (in many cases, outside of ourselves!) no one really cares about each of us. We are on our own.
That is a hard lesson and a sobering thought. I was fortunate to have come from a loving and supportive family. I have (hopefully) been as loving and supportive to my son. But, once you are out there in the big, bad world, no one really cares about you as an individual. You have to learn to care for yourself. This is VERY IMPORTANT!!!! You must care for yourself!
So, here are don Miguel Ruiz's Four Agreements:
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering. (This is very tough for me)
3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. (Also a tough one, until you remember agreement #2)
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. (Do your best, then let it go; don't over analyze and remember agreement #2)
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I keep a copy of these posted by my desk.
These are great lessons to live by. Each of us needs to find our own validation as individuals. This must come from with in. We are each, beautiful, magnificent beings. Please do not glean your own self-worth from the actions of others. Don't over think, or over analyze the actions of others. It is not all about you. (Sometimes this is a blessing in disguise!)
If you can keep these 4 thoughts in your mind, and live each moment to your best, then you will be successful.
And if you are my son, remember, your mom will ALWAYS love you!